rant on death markings

[bonfire]

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Claiming we are all assholes, because we don't feel the need to remember the dead, especially random people, who have never crossed our paths, is ridiculous and ignorant. So is comparing death to facebook.

I do not understand people mourning people they don't even know. When I was in high school, a kid who was in 80% of my classes was murdered. We knew who each other were, I wouldn't call him a friend of mine, and he wouldn't have called me one either. I didn't go to his funeral, in fact it hardly affected me, I didn't know him, beyond a kid who was my partner for an English assignment one time.

Yet kids who had never met the kid, were balling their eyes out, screaming ****, not coming to school for a few days following. In a school of nearly 1,700 kids, who would have thought.

Not trying to sound hard, because I am not, I just don't feel the need for this perpetual mourning and sorrow people seem have. Why must people who have no idea who these people are, be told of a death? Why must we be reminded daily? Did the people involved forget?

People die, people live, people go too young, people go too old, it happens, mourn peacefully and move on.

Same goes for obituaries, 200,000 people die per year, do we need a story about all of them?

[Stonewall]

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J-hop I totally agree with everything you are saying. One of my best friends just passed away in a motorcycle accident 3 weeks ago and a ton of people put out flowers, and someone put up a tee shirt for people to sign that got over 100 signatures on it, people who didn't even know the kid were leaving flowers and notes. I have never come across any a$$holes who actually care about the memorials on the road, but then I look at some of the things I see on this forum and I'm not at all surprised in anyway that I would find those a$$holes here.

Nice team spirit chief.

[J-hop]

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Bonfire you make good points, however as I will state for the second time I was not comparing death to facebook I was attempting to illustrate how ridiculous comparing people who are mourning to attention seekers is. I agree that we shouldn't spend everyday mourning a friend of a friend, etc. But in that same respect I think if we aren't effected by the deaths of people around us then we have lost all humanity and are nothing but senseless drones going about our lives without regard to those around us. I have never lost an immediate family member so I don't understand the pain it must cause but a close friend of mine lost his mom to cancer when we were in highschool and the guy was an absolute wreck for a good year or so. To tell him that he couldn't mourn his mother in a way he saw fit likely would have made it to much to bare. I think if anyone here lost a parent, kid, wife/husband close friend etc you wouldn't give a eff about what everyone else thought so I think if letting someone put out a memorial helps them cope than we should be more than accommodating

[bonfire]

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I disagree with the drone statement. I think that mourning so publicly, shows that we are losing humanity. Just like facebook, people feel the need to broadcast their lives. They feel the need to seek societies approval. Now whether that is facebooking every moment, hoping someone comments or likes something, or it is putting up a memorial so that random people can comment/leave their condolences. Difference is that in Facebook, the people commenting are people you know, and they are commenting on things that you did. With a memorial people who are not affected by the event, are seeing the event, and are remarking about it.

At the end of the day, I don't care. As long as it isn't in the middle of my lane, I couldn't give a **** about it. I just don't want to see taxpayers paying for it.

[mDmVR6]

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Typically those memorials on the side of the roads are to mark people who have passed away in a car accident or motorbike accident of some sort. And for those of you who despise them or think they are pointless and useless or an "eyesore" well maybe you have never lost a very close friend or a family member in a fatal accident, so you would not know what it is like to have one of those memorial set up. It is respectful to the person who passed away and as well it bring peace to those who suffered. Either way the city only leaves them there for a year, so you people who actually have a problem with them... just suck it up and deal with it for a while.
Also it is ridiculous and ignorant to post a rant on death marks on a forum in which a variety of people with different stories look at and then see a thread mocking the way people mourn death... yea to me that is ridiculous and ignorant. And I'm pretty sure there are a lot more people who feel the way I do, then there are people who feel the original posters way and those who agree with him.

[CanadianCoupe]

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My best friend was killed in a car crash whilst we were still at school. He ended up in a coma and a short time later the life support machine was switched off. Neither I nor the family thought for one minute about putting up a memorial at the location.

We live in a beautifiul area of the world, the last thing I want to see when driving through the mountains are memorials with plastic flowers, photograph albums, cuddly toys and religious symbols littered down the sides of the road. If you feel the need to mourn using a memorial set one up in your lounge not on (my) public property.

[bonfire]

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how sure are you?

In this thread you aren't winning that bet.

Most of the time, when I see the memorials I fathom how the crash happened. As they are often on straight sections of roads.

What is the point? Do you drive by it everyday, and remember? Do you stop your car and reminisce?

[mr_barbeque]

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My best friend was killed in a car crash whilst we were still at school. He ended up in a coma and a short time later the life support machine was switched off. Neither I nor the family thought for one minute about putting up a memorial at the location.

We live in a beautifiul area of the world, the last thing I want to see when driving through the mountains are memorials with plastic flowers, photograph albums, cuddly toys and religious symbols littered down the sides of the road. If you feel the need to mourn using a memorial set one up in your lounge not on (my) public property.

Perhaps when you see them you should slow down.... Geez guys, lighten up. Karma police be on your ass talking bad about this stuff.

[Stonewall]

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And for those of you who despise them or think they are pointless and useless or an "eyesore" well maybe you have never lost a very close friend or a family member in a fatal accident, so you would not know what it is like to have one of those memorial set up.

I guess you missed what I wrote then?
I don't think anyone used words as strong as despise, I think most of us just dislike them. I like many others would rather go to a place of burial to visit a memorial to remember their lives rather then visit the place where their life ended.

[turbomeyers]

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I like the death here sign . maybe not so morbid but a small standardized marking would be acceptable imo. then it marks the site and if its not good enough for the families it proves the attention getting look at me theory . put the teddy bears and pictures at the grave please .

[bonfire]

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But then I pose, why do only motor vehicle deaths get public markings? Why not shootings? Why not beds? Why not hospital rooms?